Why People Get Marriage?
Marriage..hmm..
I used to ignore that thing..
But now..
Everything's changed..
I recently talked with my friend while we're having our dinner. We're discussing about why people are getting marriage. For me, that's a funny thing to discuss in. Not because of that marriage thing, but because of him. Well, that friend of mine, he's a gay. And he's waiting for his boyfriend while we've finished our meal and have some cigar break. Actually, it's a bit weird for me to discuss that kinda of thing with him. But anyway, he's good friend. And he's giving me some good advice though.
He said, people need to be supplied for their emotional dependency. "They need assurance," he said. "Eventhough they have a lot of friends, sooner or later their friends will move away. Because their friends have a same common need and interest, assurance," he added to me.
I agree for what he said, exactly. Day by day, we're getting older. And we need a friend, we need accompanion, we need someone to share our point of view in life, and etc etc. And the most important is, we need assurance. We need someone to share our emotional dependency.
Well, when i'm googling the word of marriage, i find
this interesting site. According to my religion, God has created men and women for one another.
"Allah has created men and women as company for one another, and so that they can procreate and live in peace and tranquillity according to the commandments of Allah and the directions of His Messenger," The Qur'an says :
"And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect," (30:21)
"And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best," (16:72)
"O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty." (Al-Bukhari)
Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet. He said, "Modesty is part of faith." (Al-Bukhari)
The importance of marriage receives its greatest emphasis from the following hadith of the Prophet, "Marriage is my sunna. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me."
With these Qur'anic injunctions and the guidance from the Prophet (peace be upon him) in mind, we shall examine the institution of marriage in the Shari'ah.
An act to pleased God
The word zawaj is used in the Qur'an to signify a pair or a mate. But in common parlance it stands for marriage. Since the family is the nucleus of Islamic society, and marriage is the only way to bring families into existence, the Prophet (peace be upon him) insisted upon his followers entering into marriage The Shari'ah prescribes rules to regulate the functioning of the family so that both spouses can live together in love, security, and tranquillity. Marriage in Islam has aspects of both 'ibadah (worship) of Allah and mu'amalah (transactions between human beings).
In its 'ibadah aspect, marriage is an act pleasing to Allah because it is in accordance with his commandments that husband and wife love each other and help each other to make efforts to continue the human race and rear and nurse their children to become true servants of Allah.
In its mu'amalah aspect, marriage being a lawful response to the basic biological instinct to have sexual intercourse and to procreate children, the Shari'ah has prescribed detailed rules for translating this response into a living human institution reinforced by a whole framework of legally enforceable rights and duties, not only of the spouses, but also of their offspring.
These aspects are beautifully explained in a tradition of the Prophet. It is narrated by Anas that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
The Prophet considered marriage for a Muslim as half of his religion because it shields him from promiscuity, adultery, fornication, homosexuality etc., which ultimately lead to many other evils like slander, quarreling, homicide, loss of property and disintegration of the family. According to the Prophet (peace be upon him) the remaining half of the faith can be saved by taqwa.
Well, u decide what's best for u..
U know what u gotta do guys ;)
I used to ignore that thing..
But now..
Everything's changed..
I recently talked with my friend while we're having our dinner. We're discussing about why people are getting marriage. For me, that's a funny thing to discuss in. Not because of that marriage thing, but because of him. Well, that friend of mine, he's a gay. And he's waiting for his boyfriend while we've finished our meal and have some cigar break. Actually, it's a bit weird for me to discuss that kinda of thing with him. But anyway, he's good friend. And he's giving me some good advice though.
He said, people need to be supplied for their emotional dependency. "They need assurance," he said. "Eventhough they have a lot of friends, sooner or later their friends will move away. Because their friends have a same common need and interest, assurance," he added to me.
I agree for what he said, exactly. Day by day, we're getting older. And we need a friend, we need accompanion, we need someone to share our point of view in life, and etc etc. And the most important is, we need assurance. We need someone to share our emotional dependency.
Well, when i'm googling the word of marriage, i find
this interesting site. According to my religion, God has created men and women for one another.
"Allah has created men and women as company for one another, and so that they can procreate and live in peace and tranquillity according to the commandments of Allah and the directions of His Messenger," The Qur'an says :
"And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect," (30:21)
"And Allah has made for you your mates of your own nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best," (16:72)
"O you young men! Whoever is able to marry should marry, for that will help him to lower his gaze and guard his modesty." (Al-Bukhari)
Modesty was regarded as a great virtue by the Prophet. He said, "Modesty is part of faith." (Al-Bukhari)
The importance of marriage receives its greatest emphasis from the following hadith of the Prophet, "Marriage is my sunna. Whosoever keeps away from it is not from me."
With these Qur'anic injunctions and the guidance from the Prophet (peace be upon him) in mind, we shall examine the institution of marriage in the Shari'ah.
An act to pleased God
The word zawaj is used in the Qur'an to signify a pair or a mate. But in common parlance it stands for marriage. Since the family is the nucleus of Islamic society, and marriage is the only way to bring families into existence, the Prophet (peace be upon him) insisted upon his followers entering into marriage The Shari'ah prescribes rules to regulate the functioning of the family so that both spouses can live together in love, security, and tranquillity. Marriage in Islam has aspects of both 'ibadah (worship) of Allah and mu'amalah (transactions between human beings).
In its 'ibadah aspect, marriage is an act pleasing to Allah because it is in accordance with his commandments that husband and wife love each other and help each other to make efforts to continue the human race and rear and nurse their children to become true servants of Allah.
In its mu'amalah aspect, marriage being a lawful response to the basic biological instinct to have sexual intercourse and to procreate children, the Shari'ah has prescribed detailed rules for translating this response into a living human institution reinforced by a whole framework of legally enforceable rights and duties, not only of the spouses, but also of their offspring.
These aspects are beautifully explained in a tradition of the Prophet. It is narrated by Anas that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of his religion, so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
The Prophet considered marriage for a Muslim as half of his religion because it shields him from promiscuity, adultery, fornication, homosexuality etc., which ultimately lead to many other evils like slander, quarreling, homicide, loss of property and disintegration of the family. According to the Prophet (peace be upon him) the remaining half of the faith can be saved by taqwa.
Well, u decide what's best for u..
U know what u gotta do guys ;)
posted by ..bloody rou.. at Tuesday, February 21, 2006
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